1. To evoke a naturally flirtatious mood,
just recall a time when you felt enticingly flirty at some point in
the past. Try and evoke what it felt like, even what you saw
and heard. Give the memory a colour and enjoy imagining it
coursing through your veins.
playfulness, enthusiasm and curiosity are hallmarks of great
flirts. If you are happy in yourself you will radiate
flirtatiousness - practice ‘faking it till you feel it'...
3. Practice social, as
opposed to sexy, flirting in everyday life by opening
conversations with strangers, friends and colleagues. Pay
compliments, be curious, listen proactively, mirror body language,
voice tone and pacing and you will earn plenty of brownie points.
Good social flirts find gearing up into sexy flirting a
4. Maximise your dating opportunities –
the more chances you have to practise flirting, the easier it gets.
5. Successful flirts always make the flirtee
feel wonderful – make that your aim and you’ll feel wonderful too.
1. Offer a compliment –
"Nice shoes", ‘That’s a cool tie’, ‘Great outfit’. It never fails.
2. Do proactive listening –
reflect back something they’ve just said, but using different words ‘So
you really love scuba diving…’ or ‘you reckon that it’s time you changed
your job…’. They’ll be so impressed.
3. Ask them to tell you more
about something they said earlier.
4. Use their name in
conversation – it creates powerful electricity.
Essential flirty body language
1. An effective smile is used
sparingly, on its own, as a statement or to reinforce other messages.
Let it suffuse your face after a moment’s reflection in response to
something your date has said or done. Smiling all the time looks
2. Women: sensuously caress
your hair; play with your necklace or earring, twirl your cocktail
stirrer (or whatever other small object is to hand) and you’ll give out
powerful sexual signals. Men: stand or sit tall. Arch your back. Flex
your pecs and biceps. Smile – but not continuously.
3. Maintain eye contact for
that millisecond longer than expected.
4. A sideways glance is very
sexy and will disable a date’s defences before they realise it. This
piece of body talk is particularly effective for women if emanating from
behind a curtain of tousled tresses nonchalantly flung back.
5. Matching and mirroring
positive body language and voice is something that happens naturally
when flirt vibes are in the air. If your date is pulling back or
turning away – you’re coming on too strong – slow down, or accept they
just don’t fancy you.
For heaps more tips on
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to find your man’. It is based on what I have learned from observing
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